The formula for weight loss is simple, really. You eat well and exercise on a consistent basis and you will lose weight. Everyone knows that, even fat people. And thus comes the next burning question in the minds of those of you who’ve never had a weight problem: “Why don’t they just do what it takes to lose the weight they need to be healthy?” You want my answer? I ask myself the same question every freaking day.
Some days, I’m making the choices I need to lead a healthy life, and other days I’m ignoring it completely (“Yes, I’ll take the sweet potato fries instead of the salad, thanks!”). I can’t really tell you why or how I became overweight, but here I am. And telling me what I need to do can be likened to telling a smoker to stop smoking. I know it’s not good for me, but there’s a reason unbeknown to me causing me to continue. I will add, this doesn’t make it right. By not taking care of my body, I’m making a conscious decision to not look after myself. But just like a smoker might not know why they need to keep smoking, I don’t know why I feel the need to keep eating the way I do, either.
And for people who’ve never had a weight issue, it’s hard to understand the plight of those in the overweight and obese world. To them it’s as simple as me not being willing to make the hard choices. Let’s face it, fries are easier to chose than a salad. From an external viewpoint, it’s easy to look at an overweight person and assume all kinds of things. We’re lazy, we lack drive and ambition, we can’t commit to things … the list goes on. And this is a stereotype, it’s not the norm. Just because I overeat doesn’t mean I don’t work hard. But hey, everyone’s entitled to their opinions. I can’t live my life proving myself to others because of how I look .
If weight loss were as simple for everyone, then why would anyone choose to be fat? Because I truly don’t feel like I choose to be fat, even though I obviously do (yes, that sentence makes sense to me, hehe). Which is why I sought the help of my health counselor, Neeshan, who’s been very instrumental to my self discovery in the last few months. I want to learn why I choose to do what I do.
Neeshan has taken the time to help me dissect and analyze the many reasons I eat. I now know we eat to nourish not only our bodies, but also other areas of our lives in which we feel something is lacking. Here is the food pyramid she gave me:
Every significant weight gain in my life can be tied to significant change. Whenever I’ve lost my bearings, I’ve lacked some nourishment in other parts of my life … my secondary food (outer circle). When we feel fulfilled nutritionally, emotionally and physically … it is assumed we make better choices.
As soon as I hit college, I stopped physical activity and gained about 20 lbs (lacking physical activity); As soon as I got married and moved overseas, I gained 35 lbs (lacking relationship with family and friends); and after having a child I gained 15 lbs (a bit of all the secondary foods took a hit ).
I know it’s not the be all, but this pyramid has helped me understand there’s more to life than what I eat. And being healthy is more than the physical components of my life. So, wish me luck. I’m learning , and I hope you’re all learning something from this too.